Life Without a Husband During the Holidays

Oh my goodness! The holidays are a blur. This holiday season was particularly hectic! We started our holidays in November celebrating Thanksgiving with my side of the family. The holidays ended with my husband’s side of the family and a quick trip home.

Besides the fact that we have a baby, this holiday season was different because my husband and I spent almost the whole month of December apart. When we came to visit my family for Thanksgiving, we decided that the baby and I would stay and spend time with family while my husband went home to work. We did this for a couple of reasons: 1) so I could spend time with my family, 2) so my family could have some time with our son, and 3) to save money on travel.


We enjoyed our time at Disney World for Thanksgiving, and quickly had to say goodbye for a whole month. As I dropped my husband off at the airport, I held back tears because I knew that L and I would miss him so very much. The next month was filled with a lot of video chats and phone calls. We counted down the minutes until we could see each other again. The time apart was nice in one way; We got to spend a lot of time talking to each other and listening to each other. I feel like those things get lost sometimes when we see each other every single day. We get caught up in the daily routine, and we sometimes go on auto pilot.

I had a fear that my son would somehow forget who his dad was in the month that we were separated. I know that sounds silly, but our son was only eight months old. So a month to him was a long time! I was quickly proven wrong when we video chatted with his dad for the first time. My son’s face lit up with the biggest smile I have ever seen. He was so excited to see his dad. It was so fun for me, as a mom, to watch their bond and see them interact, even if it was only via the Internet.


Somehow we made it through a whole month without N. The day that he got there was the happiest day that I’ve had in a long time! His flight arrived around midnight. So, I was able to go and pick him up by myself. It was great to sit in the car with him on the way home, hold his hand, and talk to him. It seemed like it had been forever since we had been able to do that. I know it had only been a month, but a month feels like A really long time to be away from the person that is your other half.

Our reunion was quickly filled with a family gathering and packing to go visit his family. It seems like we hardly had time to breathe. It was so fun to be around family and to share our son with them. We were so grateful to have the opportunity to even be with our family at the holidays. We weren’t sure whether we were going to be able to manage to travel to see our family for the holidays this year because of finances. We are in that stage of life where my husband just graduated college, he has his first job, and we are just trying to get by. We are so grateful to have found a job for my husband right out of school, and we can’t wait to see where this leads.


We were only with my family for one whole day before we left to go visit my husband’s family and spend Christmas with them. That time seemed even shorter because we only had about four days with them. The best part about visiting my husband’s family was watching our son interact with all of his cousins. There is nothing that beats the joy of having family close and watching cousins grow up and play together.

We cooked together, played together, talked about everything under the sun, and soaked up as much as we could with family. We even took L to get pictures with Santa Claus at Bass Pro Shops! I swear, they have the best Santa is out of any place that I’ve ever been. Before leaving, my husband was able to make his dad some of his “world famous fudge.” I heard a little rumor that my father-in-law was hiding the fudge from everyone else because it was so delicious.


Early afternoon on Christmas Day, we loaded up into a car and drove to the airport. We left on Christmas day because the flights were less expensive, but it was really hard to leave family on a day that is meant to be spent with the people you love. As we sat in the airport waiting to go home, I couldn’t help but feeling like we were leaving home.

We are so grateful for the time that we were able to spend with my family and with my husbands family for the holidays. It is such a blessing that we were able to make it to see family this holiday season. It’s even more of a blessing that we were able to get to our house safely once we arrive back home, but that’s a story for another time.


We tried to live our lives with an attitude of gratitude, but the holiday season is a good reminder that we have so much to be grateful for. Christmas, to our family, is about our Savior, Jesus Christ. We want to celebrate the holiday with our savior in mind and not focusing on all of the presents.

I know that we have a Savior, and I am so grateful for this knowledge. I am grateful for the example that Jesus Christ is in my life. This year I hope to learn more about Jesus Christ and to be more like Him. The Savior is not only the “reason for the season”, but he is the reason that we can all return and live with our Heavenly Father. The Savior has made it possible for us to overcome our shortcomings, and I know that he is there to comfort us when we need to be comforted and to guide us when we need guidance.


I hope that whatever holidays you celebrate were filled with love and joy and family. I hope that this new year is filled with hope and love as well. I can’t wait to see what the year 2019 has to bring to our family. Don’t forget that every day is a chance for a new beginning. You don’t have to wait until the new year to change your life.

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